Your Identity Makes All the Difference – Part 6

I’m Peter Winslow, a life coach based in Scottsdale AZ. In this series of posts we have been learning about your true self, and what it means. Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t a matter of your name, rank and serial number; your address, education or career; your religion, family history, personality or even your physical body.

What are the three core aspects of the true self? You will recognize them as: Love, Joy, and Peace of Mind.

In the last post we discussed love. Now we’ll look at the next aspect of the true self (what we are at our core) which is joy.

Many people go into the world seeking joy, yet too often it remains elusive and fleeting to them. Why? Because joy is something we find within us, not something that others can grant us.

“When my boss gets off my back, I’ll be happy.” “When I get that new Ferrari, I’ll be ecstatic.” “As soon as these things happen I’ll be truly joyful…” are expressions that indicate a profound misunderstanding of one’s own true nature.

When you acquire the Ferrari, the joy doesn’t come floating out of the steering wheel. Joy isn’t emanating out of the metal and rubber and leather and other things that make up the car. It is the joy within you becoming fully present with the circumstance that you are feeling.

You are made of eternal joy, but your thoughts may have gotten in the way. The thoughts you choose to believe are the only things that can block you from feeling the joy within you.

Like all authentic aspects of the self, joy is dynamic; it is growing and giving. It’s one of the dynamic essences that make you who you really are. And who you are, you will find, the world reflects back to you in equal measure.

So it is that we can bring joy to the world, rather than expecting the world to bring us constant joy—which simply does not happen. Expecting the world to provide us with perpetual joy is a dysfunctional expectation that always leads to disappointment, and worse.

In our next meeting we’ll discover true peace of mind. Now wouldn’t that be nice?

– Peter Winslow

Your Identity Makes All the Difference – Part 4

I’m life coach Peter Winslow. In our last post we discovered that who we think we are and who we really are can be two different things. One of them is “static” (our outer identity, the perceived self) and the other, “dynamic” (our inner identity, or true self.)

I said that as I see it, the inner identity (one’s true self) is comprised of three things. And when you realize this fully and completely, your health, wealth and happiness will increase automatically, and exponentially.

What are the three essences of the true self? You will recognize them as: Love, Joy, and Peace of Mind.

These priceless states of being are not things you can earn or purchase; they are components of who you are, the deepest essence of your true self.

As a life coach, I’ve been approached by countless clients who ask for my help in finding love, improving their relationships, and manifesting wealth—which most people believe will give them great joy and lasting inner peace.

Think about this: nearly everyone spends their entire lives going into the world and trying to find these things. Most people spend their lives searching for love, joy, and peace, thinking of them as rare treasures that the world will give them if only they are good enough or lucky enough to win the game.

This belief can become an obsession, often bordering on madness. More importantly, it’s not true. The everlasting inner assets of your true self are rife and abundant when you realize the truth about yourself.

The fact remains that until you feel the love within you, you will not attract and hold love from the world around you. This is because love is an internal state of being, not an external conquest. The same holds true for joy and peace of mind. Realizing them for what they are is the beginning of true health, real wealth and abiding abundance.

– Peter Winslow