Your Identity Makes All the Difference – Part 8

I’m life coach Peter Winslow. We have so far discussed the inner identity, also called the “true self” and learned that it is composed of three fundamental elements: Love, Joy, and Peace of Mind.

Here is an interesting corollary: you’ve probably heard of people who psychologists refer to as “energy vampires.” These types can suck the energy right out of you. Everyone knows someone who can burn you out just by spending an hour with you, or even less. As a life coach, I deal with these types quite frequently.

So—do you know what it is they’re sucking out of you? It’s your love, your joy, and your peace of mind!

Because they have become so disconnected from their own true selves, they must get their energy directly from others as a never-ending quest for victims of their perverse needs.

These unfortunate souls have covered their true self over with layers and layers of what they refer to as “my story.” And these stories always involve static thinking about things that don’t exist anymore, things which all happened in the past. There is no dynamism for change here; they cannot change the past. They just continue to suck more and more energy from others throughout their lives.

Do you know someone like that? Maybe somebody close to you? Somebody you’re aware of… right now?

As earlier noted, they cannot change the past; yet what they can change is how they feel about the past. What would solve the issue is for them to become aware of their own inner identity—the love, peace and joy at the core of who they really are. When fully realized, these things continue to grow and to give, nurturing and sustaining them from within, as it does for all emotionally healthy and spiritually connected people.

When you identify yourself as being the love, peace and joy that resides within you—we can call this your spiritual or true self—you will constantly grow and prosper in awareness, abundance and ability.

Then an amazing revelation occurs: you attract love, wealth and abundance from the outside world.  So rather than trying to get what you want from the world, you become what it is you seek—and the world provides you with more and more of what you really are.

This is precisely how it is that in life we don’t get what we want, we get what we are—which you now recognize as the Law of Identity.

–Peter Winslow



Your Identity Makes all the Difference – Part 1

Hello, I’m life coach Peter Winslow. Today I have a powerful message that can really change your life. This message is about your identity, but it goes well beyond who you “think” you are.

Why does identity matter? It’s very important for you to know your authentic identity—who deep inside you truly are—if you expect to experience the things in life that you most want.

It’s true that, across the board, most successful and happy people know who they are and what  their life purpose is. Think about that. They have answers to the eternal questions: who am I  and what am I doing here? 

In this series of posts I’m going to make it very simple for you too, so you can get what it is you’d like to have more quickly, more effectively and more efficiently. As a life coach, that’s  what I do.

We’ll begin with what has often been called the “Law of Identity.” You might believe that sounds a lot like the Law of Emergence, or Law of Attraction, or any of the other “New Age” laws being bandied about out there, but no. The Law of Identity was first coined by the famous Greek philosopher Aristotle thousands of years ago. He defined “identity” as this: Any entity that exists must have an identity, because to exist with no identity is to be nothing. An entity cannot be nothing, so by definition it must have an identity.

Another philosopher—one from the modern age—took that awareness to a whole new level. He said that in life, we don’t get what we want, we get what we are. And as we shall see, truer words have never been spoken.

Who are you, and what is your authentic identity? In the next installment I’m going to provide some powerful answers that I know will change your life forever, and for the better.

– Peter Winslow