I’m life coach and counselor Peter Winslow. If you are like many of my life coaching clients, there are things about your last relationship you know you absolutely never want to go through again. In the last post I gave you a writing assignment to empower you to get through the pain of your breakup, and move forward in a positive, healthy fashion.
You were to write a short story about your past relationship from beginning to end, and then close the story on a high note. That positive finish is an important key that will take you one giant step closer to your goal of emotional closure.
If you were honest with yourself, you came to face many meaningful emotions, both pleasing and challenging, as you wrote the story. You were probably amazed to discover the many insights that were revealed as you poured it all out of your mind and onto the paper.
Patterns may have appeared to you, and you found it much easier to identify and understand the valuable life lessons you learned from the whole experience. It became obvious that the relationship was really an opportunity to learn about yourself in ways that you could not have discovered alone. In this sense, your ex was a very valuable part of your life experience.
Realize that no relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself. Even though it didn’t work out in the end, that doesn’t mean it wasn’t an important part of your journey.
In Part Three of this post we’ll shake it up a bit. You’ll reference the story you have written and learn how to bring it all together for meaningful closure.